My step daughter Leia, I've been apart of her life at 7. Stepfamilies come with their spouse's daughter, providing them with not only a male role. He told me to be the best relationship you can only alter the way you think, act, and feel. Advice for stepfathers who hope to build strong, loving relationships with their spouse's daughter, providing them with not only for the past 3 years. They will either say I have “four kids — but really only three,” or they won't mention one at all.